There’s a person in my life who makes herself feel so down because she compares herself to others in a bad way. We all have times when we compare ourselves to others, and it is not good necessarily.
My cousin always tells me, don’t compare yourself, do better, reach higher, work harder. But I believe that also is not good.
I feel there has to be a balance. If you are proud of your life and your accomplishments, ect than there is no need to compare. Why? because there is a calmness within, happiness.
However if you do feel the need to compare in anyway, than you should not let it affect you negatively but rather positively.
Negatively in the sense that you feel horrible, pressured, inadequate, stupid, naive, wasted, the list goes on. Those emotions will not get you anywhere healthily, you just feel worse and worse and you get stuck in an unproductive place.
However if you let good emotions in, like feeling driven, motivated, empowered, passionate, productive, ect .. then you will move on and feel happy. Every time I compare myself to someone I will try to let those positive emotions in because I don’t want to feel negative and unhappy anymore.
I’ll turn jealousy into motivation to get to where I want to, and i’ll work hard at what I am passionate about to fulfill my soul. I’ll turn resentment into happiness for the other person and try to find my own happiness.
As long as I’m happy where I am in life, and I take it step by step everyday as I go through my journey and accomplish my goals in life, I’ll no longer have to look at the lives of others and be jealous or resent, because I have my own journey. There’s no need for pressure, we have such long lives and time is never wasted because we do things that matter in the moment. And when we realize that a change is necessary it turns into a learning experience where we can help others in the future.